Give to Get?
Though the purpose of this blog is primarily to take a critical look at the Greek system, there are things still that I take offense to as a fraternity man.
Ignoring all the health and social implications of such behavior, my chapter--as do many others-- has parties once in a while, to which an eclectic mix of people are invited. Other frat guys, sorority women, freshmen from the dorms, and non-Cal students mingle in the air of sociability. Nevertheless, we have a group of people who come by all the time, not for the alcohol or the party, but because they are friends with members of the chapter.
These people are respectful, both of the house, its members, and our supplies. They do not try to commandeer alcohol, steal laptops and iPods, break windows, or create a ruckus. They come by, drink a little, talk a lot, and create a good time.
However, there are some others who are disrespectful. Their attitude is that they are a frat and that they can do whatever they want to it.
They forget that this "frat house" is also a home, that the "party" is also just a chance for some guys to catch up with friends, and that if something goes wrong it's not their necks that will be cut.
Some who read this post might think that this is just some rich privileged frat boy complaining that someone is raining on his parade. I will accept these charges, because the fact of the matter is that I am privileged (though not rich), just as equally as every other student attending Cal; that at times I am a frat boy; and that I am complaining.
My message to the frat boys and fraternity men is to not stand for such behavior from our "guests," and to not engage in such behavior when we are guests at other chapters or other people. We have to think about whether we want to continue letting people take advantage of us and our hospitality and getting little in return, or if we want to start standing for something other than parties.
We give and get little respect in return. Maybe this is a sign that we should give something other than alcohol to the community.